The (small) Niceties

as an INFJ, Si (introverted sensing) is my weakest cognitive function. that means i tend to forget – and at times, forgo – the day-to-day: sleep, food, etc.

i’ve come to recognize these necessities as niceties:

• sunlight. i wake up and let the sun hit my eyes. something nice about that. i leave my phone in another room the night before, sleep, wake up and let the sun hit my eyes like Andrew Huberman said.
• naps. whether it is after eating well, or when i am trying to catch up on sleep, the after-feeling of naps feels nice.
• inaction. there is a subtle magic in doing nothing. i take a pause from my-to-day, breathe, and try to be. some times it lasts for seconds, sometimes minutes.
• sitting on the floor. very nice.
• walks. nice slow walks. i go out at 17:30 for an hour long walk around my neighborhood. leaving all of my day-to-day related thoughts at home.
• water. a glass of mildly cold water that is at the right temperature. one that leaves a nice ‘weight’ on my tongue. i pour water into a jug, put some ice. and wait for it to melt. the disproportion of ice-to-water modifies the water’s temperature to exact kind of water i like.

more niceties i’d rather keep to myself. it feels nice to have secrets, dark or light.